The Dilemma of Choice: Reality or Illusion ?

We can all agree that our lives are a tapestry of choices. Even when we were too young to make decisions for ourselves, someone made them on our behalf. These choices, no matter how seemingly trivial, shape our beliefs, thinking processes, mentality, and behaviors in society.

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Gastien Nestand

Feb 8, 2026 · 3 min read

The Dilemma of Choice: Reality or Illusion ?

They form the foundation upon which we perceive the world around us. Reality is merely a reflection of how we view and interpret our environment, but the foundation of reality remains constant: our beliefs, thinking processes, upbringing, social influences, religion, education, you name it.


The question is, what if all the data we've learned growing up were wrong? Could we distinguish between reality and illusion?

Let's take a realistic example. Imagine that our morning breakfast routine, complete with pancakes, eggs, bacon, bread, cereals, and orange juice, has been the healthier way to start the day. What if this was actually an illusion? Would you be able to recognize what is real when you have no other data to prove otherwise, yet the breakfast routine has been your truth for so many years?


We're constantly influenced by what we see on the news, TV, social media, and the narratives pushed by those in white coats. These narratives shape our daily choices, decisions about relationships, parenting, and how we treat others, essentially, our reality.

Do you realize that if one of these components is off, we'd be living in an illusion, unable to discern what's real from what's not? Therefore, all our choices would be misguided. The scary part is we wouldn't even know it.


Isn't it strange that few question the basis of their beliefs and behaviors?


The sad reality is that we spend most of our time arguing about gender equality, red vs. blue, straight or curved, square or circle, black or white, while hardly anyone looks up to see who's shaking the jar, who planted these thoughts, and how? Or better yet: Why did they plant them in the first place?

It would be far more beneficial if we could come together, despite our differences, to find the truth. Maybe we're both wrong. Or maybe this too is an illusion. Who knows?


Understand that we should all strive to be the master of our choices. You can consciously select your thoughts. Have you thought about that? (pun intended) Really, if you spend two hours in the morning scrolling through Instagram and suddenly feel bad, isolated, or insufficient. Are these truly your thoughts or have they been planted by a third party? I'm just saying that if you consciously select your thoughts, you can become aware of what's really important, focus on what matters, and be grateful for what you have.


Another task for you, if you will: can you tell who you are? No, Ezra, Ezer, whatever, that’s your name, not you. And no, your body isn’t you either, nor is your job title, your function in society, or how rich you are, who cares about that? Now, if you remove everything that represents you in society, who are you then?

The world might not be what you think it is. Your anger might not be justified, He might be innocent, She might be Right, The white coats might be wrong, the politicians might not care, Jesus is the savior, why don't you see for yourself ?


I invite you to question the narrative that's being pushed, the basis of your beliefs, and the foundation of your choices. I encourage you to find who you are and hope you'll discover the truth amidst the noise.


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